It is grieving when our loved ones pass away and as their closed ones, we would hope that they do so happily and peacefully. Most people do not choose the cemetery option for themselves hence likely if you are reading this article, you have at the situation where you need to decide how you are going to handle it for your loved ones. There are many options available out there and you need to decide which is more suitable for him or her.
First, you need to decide whether you wish to go for cremation or standard burial. While the latter allows you to continue to visit your loved ones after the burial, the former will still allow you to do so.
If you decide to go for standard burial, you can consider normal burial, natural burial (or green burial). Natural burial involves burying the body naturally into the soil so that it will recycle itself and will not decompose.
If you decide to go for cremation, you can consider scattering the ashes into the sea or area which is memorable and meaningful to your loved ones. However, not everyone is favourable of this idea as it means the ashes of your loved one will be gone for good. You may be left with nothing so you can’t visit him/her next time as and when you wish. Unless this is the last wishes that come from your loved one before he or she passes away, otherwise we do not recommend this idea. Another option after cremation is to keep the ashes in a cremation urn in a cemetery so that you can visit him or her later. You may also say prayers, or leave flowers next time whenever you feel like doing so.
When making such decision, you have to consider the personal wishes of your departed loved ones and at the same time, your own needs and feelings too. In most cases, you will need to give a careful thought about how your decision can affect your and your family too. There may not be a best decision made, but after all, you can have a clear conscious that you have done your best. You will continue to lead your life with a piece of mind. Your departed one; will continue to stay in your heart, forever, and ever. You shall always feel connected to him or her, no matter what has happened.
In the olden days, people will not bother to plan for their final resting place but rather let their immediate family members to do it for them. However, in today modern days, people have changed their mentality by doing it ahead of time or when they are still alive. There are various reasons for this but the common reason is because they do not wish their loved ones to make the difficult decision on such an important issue. Some would like to cut costs too.
Choose a cemetery plot is indeed a great decision to be made. The approach you used should be the same as the one you used to handle any major decision in your life. Always remember to do all your homework well i.e. research and more research, background check and price comparison. Always spend enough time to plan ahead so that you will not be caught in a difficult position.
To begin with your approach to select the final resting place for your departed loved one; you should first of all consider the location. Where do you want to bury him/her? Is it near or a distance away from your home? Or any area you think is convenient so that it will be easier for you to make your way there in future? Do not just decide on the region or town, but specific cemetery you are looking at.
Once you have shortlisted a few ideal cemetery plots, start doing research on these cemeteries by checking out their businesses and backgrounds. The number of years they have been in the business, investigating their status with Better Business Bureau. Apart from doing your homework online, you should spend time visiting the place and walk around the premises to check out their environments. See if they have maintained their grounds well i.e. do they clean the gravestones and trim the grasses well and regularly? Is the area clean and do they throw the trashes or just leaving them lying around? All these are the details they you have to observe before you make a decision whether you would like to go with them.
Next, decide whether you wish to go for the traditional burial or green burial. A green burial is usually more environmental friendly and simple as compared to the traditional one. Some cemeteries offer both types while others offer either one of them but not both.
Lastly, once you have narrowed down your choices to probably only one or two. You should probably then consider your budget and see which one fit your budget well. If you are really tight on budget, you may like to consider pre-owned plot which is much cheaper as compared to others. A pre-owned plot is fundamentally one that has previously been in use but given up due to relocation of the grave.